My Breastfeeding "drama" Story Part 1 (Kesalahan terbesar)

Finally I come back with the new title here. Yes, I am a mother now, and I`m still learning how to be a good one. I just want to share my breastfeeding story because I know choosing to provide the best food for my baby is not an easy thing. It fills with struggle, sacrifice, and determination. I just want to share my story and tell the other mom that "You are not alone, and we are all in this together".


note : I am pro ASI, dan masih memperjuangkan ASI 2 tahun. Walaupun aku tahu banyak ibu yang memilih untuk memberikan anaknya susu formula/ ASI + Sufor dengan alasannya masing - masing, aku berharap dengan tulisan pengalamanku ini banyak ibu yang juga bisa berjuang mendapatkan ASI 2 tahun. Dari pengalamanku ini aku menjabarkan kesalahan- kesalahanku dalam proses mengASIhi serta menyimpulkan pemahaman - pemahaman yang salah mengenai proses mengASIhi.Diharapkan kesalahan -kesalahan yang aku lakukan tidak diulangi lagi untuk anak kedua. Selain itu other mom juga bisa mempunyai mindset yang berbeda mengenai proses menyusui.

Aku melahirkan anak pertamaku pada tanggal 2 Mei 2019, tentu itu adalah hari yang sangat membahagiakan bagi diriku dan suamiku yang selalu berada di sampingku. Tidak ada yang salah saat baby R lahir ke dunia. Alhamdulilah baby R lahir dengan keadaan sehat wal`afiat tanpa kekurangan sedikit pun. Baby R lahir sekitar pukul 6 sore, karena prosedur rumah sakit kami belum bisa langsung bertemu dengan si baby. Rumah sakit mewajibkan 6 jam observasi supaya bisa memantau perkembangan si baby setelah lahir. 6 jam setelah baby R lahir, Barulah aku bisa menyusui baby R.

Jika boleh berkata jujur, aku tidak pernah membekali diriku dengan pengetahuan mengenai menyusui, dari prosesnya, kendalanya, hingga hal hal yang tidak boleh di lakukan saat sedang dalam proses menyusui, dan itu adalah KESALAHAN pertamaku. Sewaktu hamil dulu, aku mengira proses menyusui tidaklah sulit, karena orang - orang di sekitar ku pun bisa menyusui anaknya tanpa kendala. Ibu ku pun bisa menyusui ketiga anaknya hingga 2 tahun. Ternyata proses menyusui tidaklah semudah membalikkan telapak tangan.

Sebelum mulai menyusui untuk pertama kalinnya, suster mengajarkanku  bagaimana cara menyusui yang baik dan benar. Hal itu pun yang aku lakukan saat mencoba menyusui baby R, percobaan pertama, kedua, ketiga, dan seterusnya.  Hari pertama ASI ku belum keluar, padahal kedua payudaraku mulai terasa berat. Hingga hari ketiga di rumah sakit pun tidak ada tanda-tanda asi keluar dari payudaraku padahal payudaraku sudah terlihat membengkak. Aku pun selalu menyusui baby R per 2-3 jam. Akhirnya baby R mengalami dehidrasi, suhu badannya naik dengan cepat. Ibu mana yang tidak panik saat anaknya panas tinggi. Akhirnya dengan keputusan bersama, kami sepakat untuk memberikan sufor pada hari ketiga dengan menggunakan dot. (Yang pada akhirnya aku menyadari hal tersebut merupakan KESALAHAN yang kedua).

Pada waktu itu pengetahuanku tentang penggunaan dot masih zero. Dulu ibuku pun juga memberikan sufor dengan media dot di awal awal setelah kelahiran karena ASInya belum keluar, dan ibuku bisa menyusui aku dan saudara- saudaraku hingga 2 tahun. Hal - hal itulah yang membuatku  yakin bahwa tidak masalah untuk menggunakan dot.

To be continued ........

A diamond Cannot Pay the Beauty of Sharing to the World

She just wants to live a meaningful life. She just needs to make others feel the happiness she feels in her life. She only wants to share her valuable knowledge to the world, so it won`t be a waste. That are things she wants to do in her life, to be useful to the others.

That`s why she decided to walk through the lonely path, to the far away journey, passing the strong wind and an ocean of trash. That`s when she decided to join, to wish for a change.

This is a story of a young girl who volunteer to teach the unfortunate kids how to see the world differently, how to face the cruel world, and how to speak the world alien language.

Every week for three months, on one cheerful day, she came out from her shell. Slowly walking to her absolute destination, a road to a river. A river town, that`s how she described a place where she presented her knowledge to the one who want to accept the gift. It is also a place where she found a hidden diamond in the pile of  trash. What a pity diamond, it is wasted until it is found by the world.

There, others may think that she voluntary taught the unfortunate kids about English, about other useful knowledge. The kids only knew that she introduced them about the alien language, she taught them to speak the language in amusing way. She also let them know how to love the world, how to respect people around them, and how to be a good human. But she said to me that she gives nothing, instead she learns many things. Life is about learning something, so everywhere you go you have to be able to understand what you have learned. That`s what she thinks every time she went to the river town. She did nothing but learn. She learned how to be grateful, she learned about being patient, and she learned how to go out of the comfort zone.

It`s been a wonderful three months, that`s what she said to me. Meeting little angles, being able to share many things, and finding a hidden diamond in the pile of the trash. 

There are A LOT of people who live with unfortunate condition, and that is not God`s fault. They are exist because there are others who
live to help them, to give them something, to support, to persuade them to change their life. That`s why the fortunate people live. The fortunate people cannot be shellfish with everything they have, because they don`t live in their own world. They live in God`s world, which consists of the unfortunate one.

The main thing of volunteering is about giving. Giving something without hoping or asking for anything in return. Giving is not only about money, it can be giving knowledge, giving support, giving experience, giving other things that people cannot buy with money.

How to be Happy

To make a bowl of happiness
A bunch of love, slice it without removing the essence
A bundle of sacrifice with a wide smile and pure heart
Add a bottle of kindness, be careful not to spoil the intention
A plate of compassion, scatter it until there is no tension
Put one glass of loyalty in the honest action
Pour a lot of truth to get a better condition
Mix all the ingredients with gratitude in all circumstances
Swallow it to your heart, feel it with sincerity
And bring it all into this long journey

Poem by NL